we are a germany and romania based company, no native english speakers, but using english quite a lot.
We want to grow a community and partner network around our FOSS product.
In other words, we want to win contributors.
We are aware that by behaving badly, we might repel contributurs.
Some time ago we gave ourself a code of conduct, a.k.a the coc.
Now, what we are wondering from time to time is whether some of our day-to-day attempts at humor, or phrases that we use could be problematic.
Or from a broader view, what's generally OK and what isn't.
"having balls": is it ok to use that phrase to make a complement to someone (male/female)? Can it be used with both genders?
Is there a similar phrase which does not contain sex-specific parts?
E.g. in german you can use a phrase that translates to "having an ass in one's pants".
Situation at the daily standup meeting
* collegue A: "...blah..fuck...blah, blah..fucking..blah.."
* moderator interjects jokingly: "hey, don't make me slap you with the coc"
This forum's rule: "Don't be a dick"
Person enters a mixed-gender (chat-)room: "Hi guys".
We don't want to spend anyone's time (least of all ours tbh) worrying over non-problems,
but if we could win one qualified constributor by cutting down a bit on what we sometimes perceive as funny, it would be totally worth it.
So it would be great to have your views on the general topic as well as on the particular real-life examples that I mentioned.
Thank you and best regards